“Her rebirth was stunning. She lifted herself up from the depths of despair, grasped her dreams, embedded them in her heart and walked forward into a future that only her will and vision could control.” ~Yung Pueblo
We may hear frequently about opportunities and possibilities but not as often about thresholds. That place where we feel we lost our way and respond with a significant amount of resistance and sadness. Transitions are a sacred time for transformation and unseen possibilities. Unfortunately, we’re not inclined to see them as a period that urges us toward a renewed life. What if you could shift your perspective on your transitions to move beyond loss?
We often fight and resist difficult times because we tend to think we’re being broken by them. We may think there’s something wrong with us. Let me share a quote from Cynthia Occelli that I love. “For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.”
I believe this part of one of the Rupi Kaur’s poems also encloses within itself that there’s something more meaningful behind every transition. “ . . . think of those flowers you plant/ in the garden each year/ they will teach you/ that people too/ must wilt/ fall/ root/ rise/ in order to bloom.”
What about if instead of fighting a life transition, you could see them as a rebirth? Here are some 6 key points for you to move beyond loss with a new perspective.
- Surrender to what is. One of the best ways to embrace transitions is dissolving the need to get rid of what arises; either is fear, pain, sadness, attachment, etc. We can’t deny that change causes conflicting feelings and produce grief. These are all natural responses to change, but unresolved painful emotions can have a negative impact on our lives. Even though it’s painful, accept them as part of the process. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You start to heal when you’re allowed to acknowledge your emotions and to accept where you are.
- Add stability to your life. Develop healthy routines. Be mindful of creating a nurturing living space. Replenish yourself. Focus on activities that have been proven to increase happiness and wellbeing.
- Build positive connections. Stay away from people who drain your energy. Surround yourself with people that help uplift and encourage you. Ideally, people who have been through a very similar situation and found a way out with a higher purpose. Find your tribe.
- Discover your inner resources. Release the ways you’ve self-sabotaged. Apply your strengths for a new sense of direction.
- Focus on what you want. Look at where you want to be, rather than where you’ve been. Gain clarity about what you want in your life. Visualize and sense the change you want coming even before you see evidence of it.
- Be willing to take a small step forward. To help with the process of recovery, you must be willing to deal with setbacks and to change your life for the better. You’re strong enough to keep going and rebuild a meaningful life. You can overcome whatever comes your way. Choose growth over stagnation.
Don’t let adversity define you. Transitions are tough and painful but they offer opportunities for growth. They carry wisdom we need to learn in order to move forward. If you’re willing to invest your focus and energy, your circumstances can become a blessing that opens you to new discoveries. Trust that everything is unfolding for your highest good and open yourself to what the universe wants to teach you.
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